Writing on the forum ...
Posted: Tue Apr 18, 2006 2:06 pm
I am not a moderator - though as the one who fought for the chance to have
this open forum on the IAC website I feel some responsibility for it.
It is more than that - I regard the regular contributors as friends.
I have been lucky enough to meet many of them and to know that they are lively,
interesting people with plenty to say. Some I only know through their forum
postings. Others I also know through private email contact.
Willy and Ian touched on the biggest risk ... a casual word typed in a hurry
may trigger a strong reaction in someone else.
I don't think we can avoid such trigger-words. Some people here write in
their second or third langauge. Almost all of us write quickly in spare moments
between other tasks. Most of us occasionally pick the wrong word.
The answer - I suggest - is never to write back when you are furious.
If something on the forum gets you mad type a message in your word-processor
and save it. Wait 24 hours. Re-read and revise your reply to make sure it
explains your anger but recognises that the offending writer probably did
not intend to upset you. (Even if you suspect they did intend it !!) Then
copy and paste that reply to the forum.
Of course we have different views ... that's what makes the forum interesting.
Let's just make sure we respect the views of other people.
Roll on good debate and helpful suggestions!
Dave (oil on troubled waters) Watterson
this open forum on the IAC website I feel some responsibility for it.
It is more than that - I regard the regular contributors as friends.
I have been lucky enough to meet many of them and to know that they are lively,
interesting people with plenty to say. Some I only know through their forum
postings. Others I also know through private email contact.
Willy and Ian touched on the biggest risk ... a casual word typed in a hurry
may trigger a strong reaction in someone else.
I don't think we can avoid such trigger-words. Some people here write in
their second or third langauge. Almost all of us write quickly in spare moments
between other tasks. Most of us occasionally pick the wrong word.
The answer - I suggest - is never to write back when you are furious.
If something on the forum gets you mad type a message in your word-processor
and save it. Wait 24 hours. Re-read and revise your reply to make sure it
explains your anger but recognises that the offending writer probably did
not intend to upset you. (Even if you suspect they did intend it !!) Then
copy and paste that reply to the forum.
Of course we have different views ... that's what makes the forum interesting.
Let's just make sure we respect the views of other people.
Roll on good debate and helpful suggestions!
Dave (oil on troubled waters) Watterson